Thursday, April 17, 2008

Kinky Sex on the Dockside?

Though you might think that all sex workers are sexually adventurous, many dockside sugar girls cling to a host of idiosyncratic sexual taboos. Some refuse oral sex, others kissing, and most balk at anal play. (These taboos can change if they're drunk or high, though.)

One reason for their "conservatism" is because, in Cape Town, they come from Christian and Muslim households where sex is fraught with ambivalence. So the women bring their anxieties about sex with them to their work. However, in contrast to other sectors (like escorting) where men expect to enjoy "no limits" sexual service, sugar girls can hold on to their taboos because their foreign seafaring clients often don't demand anything more than conventional intercourse.

Indeed, most dockside encounters never go into the realm of fantasy, like playing roles, wearing costumes or using artificial devices. Those sorts of situations are usually found in other sex sectors that are dominated by local and international whites.

For instance, one of dockside prostitutes I interviewed used to occasionally service European tourists. But she said that, compared to the seamen’s rather traditional tastes, these white johns were quite kinky.

One time she went with a German guy. After eating a big meal together at a Chinese restaurant, he took her to a hotel where the coffee tables in each room were made of glass. After they stripped for sex, he asked her to straddle the table so that he could lie below her and look up at her naked butt. Then he asked her to dump her bowels on top of the glass so that he could masturbate while he watched.

She couldn’t believe the request. But once he forked over a few thousand rands for the pleasure, she simply straddled the table and shat her sweet ‘n sour pork all over the show.

It was one of the strangest experiences in this lady's sexual career. But the more that she interacted with white tourists, the more she realized that these men were seeking unusual experiences, not just sex. One guy gave her a "golden shower" while she was in the bath-tub: he got a thrill from peeing on her.

And another fellow yelled out his own son's name while she was giving him a blow job.

Of course, human sexuality is incredibly diverse and complex. But that complexity seems to narrow in certain prostitution sectors. For while some men purposefully seek out prostitutes to make their wildest fantasies come true, the seafarers seem to be content with "conventional" sexual encounters.

Part of the reason for this, I suspect, is that the seafarers seek out sugar girls for more than just sex. They also crave companionship and conversation. The women provide this at the nightclubs, by hanging out with their men for hours: drinking, dancing, and chatting together. Thus sex is just one of many services the dockside prostitutes provide. It is part of a larger package of social amusements. The women can maintain their conservative (though promiscuous) sexual boundaries because the men will still be satisfied and will still pay.

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